Rangers bad for ur relationship?
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09-16-2004, 06:25 PM
Join Date: Sep 2004
I have usually just read these boards, but now I must post.
Let me qualify my thoughts my saying my gf is a ranger fan and was before I met her. She doesnt like football, but knows NOT to call me when the Giants are playing. We have been together for over 2 years.
Roy and everyone else, your girlfriend should NEVER make plans for the both of you. She should ALWAYS check with you first and if she gives you grief about not wanting to hang out with her friends, then you need to shorten the leash on her. Give you an example of what I mean. I am a teacher and therefore I'm off today and tomorrow for the Jewish holidays. My gf quit her job last week. Her best friend is also a teacher. Her best friends boyfriend had an extra pair of tixx for a concert tomorrow night and asked if we wanted to go. My gf tells me the concert is for some guy neither of us had ever heard of, but apparently had a popular song about 2 years ago, and the concert was in Maryland. My gf asked if I wanted to go and I replied, "are you on crack? You want me to drive 4 hours at the minimum for a concert for a singer I have never heard of who had a popular song 2 years ago?" Then she replied, "Well, I thought it would be fun to go away." Sorry, but my idea of a weekend getaway is not driving to Maryland for a concert with her best friend, the boyfriend AND her best friend's 16 year-ld brother. Not happenning. So I suggested if she wants to go away we should go to Cooperstown. Neither of us have ever been there and she does want to go. But, she had an interview this afternoon and again tomorrow so that is out of the question. Last weekend she asked me if I wanted to have dinner with them. I had to decline. We went back to school last week, without the kids, and I spent most of the week helping other teachers move stuff and set up their rooms, helped some of the ladies carry textbooks, so I knew Friday I would be in no shape to go to the city. No AC in most of the rooms, so I was working up quite a sweat and a very unpleasant aroma. Actually had to bring extra T-shirts so I could change in the middle of the day. I teach in Staten Island, so would have had to drive home (work on north shore, live on the South Shore), shower, change clothes, drive back to the north shore to catch the ferry, nah not a good idea, and saturday I was going to Atlantic City as I had tixx for Giants-Eagles in Philly sunday. My point? DO you know how many guys would have had to adjust their plans because their gf went ahead and made plans FOR them? It should never happen.
Roy, you had a TV, then went and bought a 2nd tv so you both could watch what you wanted to watch and she STILL gives you grief? Are you insane? Do you ever give her a hard time when she is watching something you hate? If not, you better start giving her a dose of her own medicine.
As for compromise, make sure she knows the schedule in ADVANCE, if you are going to allow her to make plans for the both of you. Next time she makes plans for both of you be a man and tell her, "NO". If she gives you any $h!t, just say, "Because I do not feel like going." Or, turn the tables. On a night you know she wants to watch something make plans for both of you with one of your friends whom you know she hates. When she complains you can give it to her.
Another thing you can try is to start complaining about how much money you wind up spending when you go out with HER friends because SHE made plans. Obviously this won't work if you are wealthy, or you never pay, or she somehow gets everything comped (had an ex-gf who did that, she worked for SONY, so she would get free passes and gift certificates to everything, but she was a real nasty b!tch and when she told me to shut up in front of my family I took her home. On the way I stopped at a convenience store and picked up a newspaper. When we got to her place I opened to the Personals and told her she might want to use these if she wants to be with someone next week).
I'm sorry for being so hard on you Roy, but you need to take a little control. I'm not saying you should become Atilla the Hun, but she does need to know her place, and she needs to learn that you are entitled to your hobbies such as the Rangers, and other sports as well. There is no reason why she can't agree to meet friends on a saturday night when they are playing at 11pm. Granted, that is a little late for dinner, but not to late for drinks. If she is trying this nonsense during the week, claim you do not want to be out when you have to work the next morning. If you are letting her take control now, you are doomed after the wedding. You might as well have the priest say, "I now pronounce you Master and B!tch" and guess what, "B!tch" would have NOTHING to do with gender.
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