Your "I Hate the Ref" Moments
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02-15-2010, 07:03 AM
Join Date: Dec 2009
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1) I did that once. Spent about a year in high school as an inline ref. Also did some umpiring of girls LL softball. Hardest, most damn difficult jobs I've ever had. Gained a tremendous appreciation for the difficult job sports officials have to do.
Having said that though.....
2) I shouldn't have to be a full-time waiter in order to expect to have the drink I asked for brought to me, free of spittle. I shouldn't have to be a world class chef in order to get a prime rib that isn't burnt into a crispy hockey puck. The leagues/tournaments we pay to play in provide us with an officiating service....and if that service isn't up to snuff, it the right of the customers to complain, vent their frustrations, etc.
Yes, some of it goes too far. Hell, I freely admit that I've stepped over the line on more than one occasion. I've mellowed in my older post-pubesecent years, and so now I don't get as worked up as I used to over a phantom trip or a missed offside. But some of the stuff in this thread is just blatant incompetence and, in a sport like this, that sort of thing can lead to serious injury.
Any ref who has ever played or watched a day of hockey before in their lives knows and understands this dynamic. Some of my current teammates/friends are refs. Oddly enough, they are the HARSHEST critics of the other refs. Oh sure, they are far more forgiving of a missed hockey play, but they are often the most outspoken (privately and on the ice) about poor calls involving player safety and game control because they know what should and shouldn't be acceptable.....even for an amateur ref. And when they ref, they often know when they deserve to take some grief, too.
I agree, the problem with this thread though, is how much of it truly happened the way they described it?
Granted there are guys who shouldn't strap up, on either side of the whistle, but for the majority, players have an extreme bias. Case in point, one game, tie game, decent enough game for the level, two guys where hacking and whacking in front of the net, on the shins etc, I really didn't want to sit them for 4, as the league standard is 4 for a stick infraction, didn't want to do that, as it wouldn't have done anything, so I blew the whistle, waited for everyone to turn to me, yelled at the two players to follow me to the box, got there, told them to knock the BS off or I was gonna call them, acted like I changed my mind, and we took the faceoff, both said thanks, no other problems from them until completely after the game after one team broke it wide open, the guy comes to me and starts yelling about that incident and asking me why I didn't call the penalties and then telling me my answer instead of waiting for it. I simply left the ice and refused to talk to him, but if he had such a problem with it, why wait several minutes at the end of the game, when a simple, "Ref, call it if you have to call it, I don't like the non calls, if we deserve it, call it" type of statement would have been fine at the time. (I still wouldn't have called it BTW, I just wanted to settle things down before they escalated between the two)
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