Réjean Tremblay on Gainey
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12-11-2006, 02:29 PM
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Montreal, QC
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Before a Wave Comes
by Réjean Tremblay
In the worst of storms - not that which took Laura Gainey off her boat Friday night - but the other storm, when she was 13 years old, Bob Gainey discovered he wasn't alone.
He frequented help groups for support, to find a bit of light. And through that torment, he realized that others were living through the same thing as him and his daughter.
Yesterday, Gainey was with his three other children, Anna, Colleen, and Steven, and his friend Murray Wilson, but he was alone.
Agonizing as the hours went by, replaying in his head all of the tragedies that his daughter lived through, cursing out the twist of fate that took her away while she had been finding a way to overcome fate. Laura had become a volunteer on the Picton Castle, a tall boat of 175 feet, confronting the oceans, the waves, the wind, the dangers of high force, and in this she found a purpose in life. The pains and blisters meant nothing when the soul is at peace.
Yesterday, Bob Gainey was pained and anguished. Already, the tv and radio stations were talking about his gentle strength and his courage. But to hold a stone-cold face doesn't diminish the pain in the heart and soul. And yesterday, Gainey couldn't count on a support group to back him up.
I have colleagues and friends who have lost children. They were young, they were beautiful, they were sometimes troubled, but they were loved. These fathers couldn't be with Bob gainey yesterday, but Normand, Serge, Michel, and others could have taken him in their arms and told him that they share his pain. And tell him that the pain finally will lessen and only the memories will remain. In this sense, Bob Gainey is not alone.
Now is not the time for long speeches. But Laura Gainey... did she have even the slightest idea of the immense love her father had for her? Was she conscience of the sleepless nights, and the weeks and months of anguish that her father went though? Did she have the time to learn that the gentleman that is Bob Gainey had to learn to sacrifice all his other passions to make time for his children? This is what he said to me in September, telling me he had no other passion in life aside from his kids.
There are 10,000 youngsters between the ages of 12 and 30 reading this article. Maybe 100,000, I don't know. But all these kids, are they the least bit conscience of just how much their parents love them, even though their parents may sometimes be a little awkward, stressed, or incompetent when faced with problems and the complexity of life.
At 13 or 14 years of age, Laura Gainey lost her mother. Bob Gainey found himself all alone to raise 4 children. Perhaps she thought he was too strict, or maybe the loss of her mother was harshest of all. He battled, day after day, night afte rnight. And then Laura found a new meaning in life. And Friday night, a wave knocked her off the bridge of an impressive boat that was travelling towards southern waters, the Caribean seas. She was doing what whe wanted, what she loved.
Today, Anna, Colleen, Steve and Bob Gainey are devastated.
And you are 10,000 or 100,000 people aged 30 and under...
You don't feel like making a phone call?
Before a wave comes...
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