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12-29-2012, 10:32 PM
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So there's this girl that I'm going to ask out. We work together, and I like her a lot. I have no idea if she'll say yes - I flirt with her a lot, and she laughs at my jokes, and we talk all the time when we work together. She says she loves working with me, only enjoys work when she gets to work with me (And a few other people), and after I mentioned that I made a mean penne pasta she asked me to make her some and bring it to work. So either I'm already friendzoned, or I have a shot.

Anyway, my plan is just to ask her to do something low key, and casual. I'm thinking ice skating, for example. It may be kind of out of the blue, but I think we're comfortable enough with each other where it wouldn't be totally weird, or awkward.

However, talking to one of my friends tonight, he said that he thinks that is a bad idea. He said I should get to know her better, start slowly texting her, getting closer, and then eventually ease into hanging out and stuff like that. I trust this dude's opinion because he's one of the smoothest guys I know, and very successful with the ladies.

However, his idea seemed like total bull**** to me. Seems like a recipe for getting friendzoned, or just chickening out and eventually just not doing anything about it.

What do you think?
it can be a very thin line that you walk if youre taking that approach. your friend probably has good success cause like you said hes smooth. you just have to know when to kick it up a knotch

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12-29-2012, 10:45 PM
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Why don't you invite her over for some of that pasta?

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12-29-2012, 10:55 PM
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So there's this girl that I'm going to ask out. We work together, and I like her a lot. I have no idea if she'll say yes - I flirt with her a lot, and she laughs at my jokes, and we talk all the time when we work together. She says she loves working with me, only enjoys work when she gets to work with me (And a few other people), and after I mentioned that I made a mean penne pasta she asked me to make her some and bring it to work. So either I'm already friendzoned, or I have a shot.

Anyway, my plan is just to ask her to do something low key, and casual. I'm thinking ice skating, for example. It may be kind of out of the blue, but I think we're comfortable enough with each other where it wouldn't be totally weird, or awkward.

However, talking to one of my friends tonight, he said that he thinks that is a bad idea. He said I should get to know her better, start slowly texting her, getting closer, and then eventually ease into hanging out and stuff like that. I trust this dude's opinion because he's one of the smoothest guys I know, and very successful with the ladies.

However, his idea seemed like total bull**** to me. Seems like a recipe for getting friendzoned, or just chickening out and eventually just not doing anything about it.

What do you think?
You already talk to her enough at work it seems. There's really no point to slowly texting her. Like you said you'll either get friendzoned faster this way or chicken out. And then all you'll have to show for it is a headache and a lot of wasted time. Go for it now and good luck.

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12-30-2012, 12:05 AM
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Cashier has a boyfriend.

I tried.

On to the next one.

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12-30-2012, 12:20 AM
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Over a girl?
No because of this joke of a night, 6 hours at a stupid lame banquet that played nothing but Backstreet Boys music the whole night and took forever for people to show up and get the stupid thing going.

Anyways, the pressure is on me to find a GF now. This is for real, I have big pressure to find a GF in 2013. Why? Cause my turn of marriage was suppose to be the last turn, and the cousin younger than me just got married and guess what, the next youngest from him is already planning his marriage.

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12-30-2012, 03:11 AM
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So there's this girl that I'm going to ask out. We work together, and I like her a lot. I have no idea if she'll say yes - I flirt with her a lot, and she laughs at my jokes, and we talk all the time when we work together. She says she loves working with me, only enjoys work when she gets to work with me (And a few other people), and after I mentioned that I made a mean penne pasta she asked me to make her some and bring it to work. So either I'm already friendzoned, or I have a shot.

Anyway, my plan is just to ask her to do something low key, and casual. I'm thinking ice skating, for example. It may be kind of out of the blue, but I think we're comfortable enough with each other where it wouldn't be totally weird, or awkward.

However, talking to one of my friends tonight, he said that he thinks that is a bad idea. He said I should get to know her better, start slowly texting her, getting closer, and then eventually ease into hanging out and stuff like that. I trust this dude's opinion because he's one of the smoothest guys I know, and very successful with the ladies.

However, his idea seemed like total bull**** to me. Seems like a recipe for getting friendzoned, or just chickening out and eventually just not doing anything about it.

What do you think?
Get straight to the point... stop bull****ing. If you want more than just being friends, then escalate. **** your friend.

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12-30-2012, 03:52 AM
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Ah, the "friend zone."

I got friendzoned a lot in high school, and I vowed to never let it happen again after that. To be honest, I can't see how anyone of independent age could possibly be friendzoned. Does anyone agree with me? At some point in time you have to break on through to the other side, so to speak, into the romantic realm, which is always better sooner than later in my opinion. But if getting "friendzoned" is seemingly an imminent threat, I don't see what's to lose in a properly timed opportunistic advance. Of course getting that opportunity may be a challenge but if you are persistent and perhaps even confrontational enough those opportunities can be found.

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12-30-2012, 05:43 AM
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Ah, the "friend zone."

I got friendzoned a lot in high school, and I vowed to never let it happen again after that. To be honest, I can't see how anyone of independent age could possibly be friendzoned. Does anyone agree with me? At some point in time you have to break on through to the other side, so to speak, into the romantic realm, which is always better sooner than later in my opinion. But if getting "friendzoned" is seemingly an imminent threat, I don't see what's to lose in a properly timed opportunistic advance. Of course getting that opportunity may be a challenge but if you are persistent and perhaps even confrontational enough those opportunities can be found.
I generally choose to confront the object of my affection rather than allow myself to sit around frustrated for however long. If rejected, move on.

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12-30-2012, 08:36 AM
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Question/story time:

So there's this girl that I'm going to ask out. We work together, and I like her a lot. I have no idea if she'll say yes - I flirt with her a lot, and she laughs at my jokes, and we talk all the time when we work together. She says she loves working with me, only enjoys work when she gets to work with me (And a few other people), and after I mentioned that I made a mean penne pasta she asked me to make her some and bring it to work. So either I'm already friendzoned, or I have a shot.

Anyway, my plan is just to ask her to do something low key, and casual. I'm thinking ice skating, for example. It may be kind of out of the blue, but I think we're comfortable enough with each other where it wouldn't be totally weird, or awkward.

However, talking to one of my friends tonight, he said that he thinks that is a bad idea. He said I should get to know her better, start slowly texting her, getting closer, and then eventually ease into hanging out and stuff like that. I trust this dude's opinion because he's one of the smoothest guys I know, and very successful with the ladies.

However, his idea seemed like total bull**** to me. Seems like a recipe for getting friendzoned, or just chickening out and eventually just not doing anything about it.

What do you think?
meh i dunno. Ive been texting this one girl for about a week and a half now, and shes the one suggesting we hang out now and stuff.

id trust him. it seems to work.

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12-30-2012, 05:37 PM
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How much love does a woman need?

With no judgement, how many partners is it acceptable for a woman in her mid-twenties to have had?

At what point does she reach "easy"?

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How much love does a woman need?

With no judgement, how many partners is it acceptable for a woman in her mid-twenties to have had?

At what point does she reach "easy"?
How about who gives a ****?

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How about who gives a ****?
Unlimited, then?

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12-30-2012, 07:16 PM
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Man, how do you determine if a girl is interested or if she just likes attention?

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I'm really hoping my date tonight goes well. First date with this girl I met online, thing is that she's normally not my type. I like being the more outgoing one and stuff, and I usually go for skinny white chicks haha, not hispanics idk why just prefer it haha. We like the same stuff though, I just hope since I met her online she's desperate because I don't seem like her type either, but idk we'll see. I also hope I can transform her into a hockey girl haha.
Why are you hoping she's desperate? Why are you already thinking about long term things for a girl you met online?

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Man, how do you determine if a girl is interested or if she just likes attention?
You make a move and if she backs off you laugh in her face and never talk to her again.

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Question/story time:

So there's this girl that I'm going to ask out. We work together, and I like her a lot. I have no idea if she'll say yes - I flirt with her a lot, and she laughs at my jokes, and we talk all the time when we work together. She says she loves working with me, only enjoys work when she gets to work with me (And a few other people), and after I mentioned that I made a mean penne pasta she asked me to make her some and bring it to work. So either I'm already friendzoned, or I have a shot.

Anyway, my plan is just to ask her to do something low key, and casual. I'm thinking ice skating, for example. It may be kind of out of the blue, but I think we're comfortable enough with each other where it wouldn't be totally weird, or awkward.

However, talking to one of my friends tonight, he said that he thinks that is a bad idea. He said I should get to know her better, start slowly texting her, getting closer, and then eventually ease into hanging out and stuff like that. I trust this dude's opinion because he's one of the smoothest guys I know, and very successful with the ladies.

However, his idea seemed like total bull**** to me. Seems like a recipe for getting friendzoned, or just chickening out and eventually just not doing anything about it.

What do you think?
I did this with a girl that i met at work, slowly started talking to her but made it known i was interested from the start, we ended up hanging out like a few weeks after we started texting outside of work. Then ended up getting into a relationship with her, been basically a full year now.

Its a thin line really, maybe she's just the talkative flirtatious type and doesn't' mean anything beyond it. Or doesn't think she's giving you any idea by how she is.

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12-30-2012, 09:59 PM
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I did this with a girl that i met at work, slowly started talking to her but made it known i was interested from the start, we ended up hanging out like a few weeks after we started texting outside of work. Then ended up getting into a relationship with her, been basically a full year now.

Its a thin line really, maybe she's just the talkative flirtatious type and doesn't' mean anything beyond it. Or doesn't think she's giving you any idea by how she is.
Pretty much the exact same story here, but it's been about six months at this point.

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Why are you hoping she's desperate? Why are you already thinking about long term things for a girl you met online?
cuz then she'll try to be more outgoing and flirtatious. And it was a joke cuz we're on a hockey site, I never think that far ahead in real life. Anyways she all of a sudden stopped texting so I had no idea if the date was still on or what so it didn't happen. Met a different girl at a party anyways that same night.

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How much love does a woman need?

With no judgement, how many partners is it acceptable for a woman in her mid-twenties to have had?

At what point does she reach "easy"?
It's easy to know when she is easy...

Tell her that she is a dirty girl and needs to take a shower with you.

If she agrees she is easy, duh. If she slaps you, propose.

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1- friendzone doesnt exist
2- dont go ice skating unless theres going to be a group going from work..the group thing might be a better atmosphere, let her gently see your 'outside of work' personality.

good luck

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My theory has always been if a girl has a boyfriend, it's just a speed bump. GET 'EM BOYS!

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once she gets enough speed bumps, it’ll feel just like herpes. those ‘speed bumps’ become the Braille of a loose ****. enjoy scratching your **** for the next 50 years!

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How would I go about cutting out a girl from my life?

Cold turkey by ignoring her or slowly making myself unavailable?

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Cold turkey pisses them off more so go with that

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How would I go about cutting out a girl from my life?

Cold turkey by ignoring her or slowly making myself unavailable?
My friend does the "fade out." Works with texting mainly, although there can be a complementary real-life component. First off, you never initiate a conversation (or, in real life, a date). You start by being your normal texting self. Then, over time, your answers get shorter. As this happens, maybe you don't bothering responding to 25% of them, you know? Bump that up to 50%. Then 80%. One-word answers at this point. Then don't respond at all. Fade out complete. There is no defined end to your relationship. This should be reserved for cases where you don't hate the girl, but you just aren't feeling it, you know?

I, on the other hand, have done the complete cut-out in the past. Block Facebook, no answer to calls, no texts. This should be reserved for cases of spite.

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