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Buy a dating book . People study that **** for a living and you can buy their book for $20 off Amazon.
Anyways,
Make 100% sure she knows this is a DATE and not a get together. Kiss her at the end of the night so there is NO DOUBT in her mind
Swallow your guts when you do it, once your lips touch it easy as hell to follow through. Trust me
Try doing a fun dinner after your game.
Once you do this you'll realise how much you over think things and hopefully you can be an advice giver, and not receiver.
I've never been on a tennis date, but I feel like that would be a bit gross...the sweat and all.
There really aren't rules for what you can't make a successful first date out of other than that movies are generally the worst possible idea. If both people are into being active, there's nothing wrong with some competition. Follow it up by going to a smoothie place or something for some convo and you're golden.
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Completely understand what you're saying and in most people's cases I'd say you'd be right but in my case I think the game needs to happen. At the end of the day I need to do what I feel comfortable in doing and this would be it, I plan to make a move from there.
And I'm not sure how much more serious I can be when I send her a text giving her date, time and place?
Text her with exact time and place for tennis on Monday, then ask her what she's doing on the weekend.
I've never been on a tennis date, but I feel like that would be a bit gross...the sweat and all.
When I go play tennis with females there isn't much running going on and if he's in the northern part of the US or Canada chances are it won't be too hot when he plays. I kind of doubt that they are going to be playing a legit game but instead just standing in the middle of the court hitting it back and forth and talking. I could be wrong though.
So I bumped into an ex-coworker tonight, and we got to talking and of course some of my story with my ex came out. Long story short, she wants to "help me take my mind off it" and "not think for a while." She's about one or two rungs lower than I would normally go, but what the hell right?
You're more or less being offered sex on a platter and you're having doubts about it?
Completely understand what you're saying and in most people's cases I'd say you'd be right but in my case I think the game needs to happen. At the end of the day I need to do what I feel comfortable in doing and this would be it, I plan to make a move from there.
Staying in your comfort zone ... how's that worked for you for the last few years? Now that you're actually doing SOMETHING more than playing it completely safe, you're finally seeing some results, however meager; that should tell you something about pushing the envelope. Comfort is overrated.
And what exactly do you mean "make a move from there?" You mean, like try to take her on a real date where you can actually get to know each other better? Well, how is that any different than calling her and setting something up for the weekend? I sure hope you're not planning on spilling your guts and pledging your everlasting devotion or something nutty like that.
Besides which, have you made it known that you'd like to do more than just play tennis on Monday? It's going to be tough to "make a move" if all she expects is to play tennis with you and then go home.
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And I'm not sure how much more serious I can be when I send her a text giving her date, time and place?
Why text her the time and place, when you can call and talk to her about a time and place? It's the perfect excuse to chat/flirt with her, instead of just a one-line message with limited interaction. And it might lead to an opportunity to ask her to spend time with her this weekend. Is there some reason you want to put that off?
When I go play tennis with females there isn't much running going on and if he's in the northern part of the US or Canada chances are it won't be too hot when he plays. I kind of doubt that they are going to be playing a legit game but instead just standing in the middle of the court hitting it back and forth and talking. I could be wrong though.
Saw her again. I'm finding that I'm the only one engaging anything throught the whole thing. She smiles and seems to be having a good time, but I'm literally doing everything. In any case, I'm not interested in continuing what we have now. Not sure if I should just stop making contact or call her and tell her what's up. I'm leaning towards calling her because we normally communicate pretty well.
I have this other girl waiting in the wings, I might just call her tonight and going out with her instead. She's a lot more aggressive about what she wants, which I enjoy.
Saw her again. I'm finding that I'm the only one engaging anything throught the whole thing. She smiles and seems to be having a good time, but I'm literally doing everything. In any case, I'm not interested in continuing what we have now. Not sure if I should just stop making contact or call her and tell her what's up. I'm leaning towards calling her because we normally communicate pretty well.
I have this other girl waiting in the wings, I might just call her tonight and going out with her instead. She's a lot more aggressive about what she wants, which I enjoy.
Go for the latter. The first one might actually get more aggressive/interested if you stop giving her attention. I also hate when it's one sided.
There really aren't rules for what you can't make a successful first date out of other than that movies are generally the worst possible idea. If both people are into being active, there's nothing wrong with some competition. Follow it up by going to a smoothie place or something for some convo and you're golden.
I disagree about movies. Just make sure you have something lined up for after the movie. It gives you instant conversation. If its movie then home, then you deserve to be playing solitaire, but if you tell the girl hey let's head out for coffee after you have a guaranteed conversation starter to break the ice and go from there.
. People study that **** for a living and you can buy their book for $20 off Amazon.
