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I mean this girl I been seeing sort of off and on just does/says some things that scratch my head thinking she wants more than what we have...
She asked if I had thought of names for kids if I had them...
I picked up a ring she took off and was on the table, gave it to her, she gave it back to me and told me to put it on her...
Sometimes talks about "the future" and such... (ie- "we" should go and on a trip and do this____)
Than conversly she will say "last month of school, I can't see you or want to get involved in anything serious"...
I do little tests to actually gauge interest (ie didn't reply to a text she sent yesterday and she calls me 6 hours later asking why...lol)...
It just seems odd to me... she seems really conflicted.
Honestly, I don't care how the situation plays out... right now we are friends with benifits I guess (I dunno really...lol)... but I am confused on what she wants with me or where this is headed...
Conversely myself, not sure I want a relationship with her... she is amazing, hot, sexy and probably everything I want... but not what I need. She is also very impulsive and overall a horrible decision maker (life decision maker) and I just think she would just end up hurting me so I haven't fully committed that way to her because of my doubts towards her.... but she is a total freak in the sack so there is that...
It's weird and a unusual dynamic.
Just seems odd she would do these little mind game things as I mentioned above than say something like she doesn't want something serious or whatever.
I'm just going to continue to play it cool because I am obviosly playing this right, never expected this thing to last this long but digging it.... never really went full blown relationship, everytime I think we are there she seems to draw away... conversly everytime I think it's over and we wont talk, she either comes to my place to screw or invites me to her place to screw
I disagree about movies. Just make sure you have something lined up for after the movie. It gives you instant conversation. If its movie then home, then you deserve to be playing solitaire, but if you tell the girl hey let's head out for coffee after you have a guaranteed conversation starter to break the ice and go from there.
if you need a movie to have something to talk about on the first date you're already done. Waste of two hours of valuable time.
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if you need a movie to have something to talk about on the first date you're already done. Waste of two hours of valuable time.
When I was desperate and dating a girl I didn't really like that much, I used to go on movie dates with her just so I wouldn't have to speak to her. That way I didn't get moaned at for not spending time with her, and I didn't have to talk to her. Win win.
I mean this girl I been seeing sort of off and on just does/says some things that scratch my head thinking she wants more than what we have...
She asked if I had thought of names for kids if I had them...
I picked up a ring she took off and was on the table, gave it to her, she gave it back to me and told me to put it on her...
Sometimes talks about "the future" and such... (ie- "we" should go and on a trip and do this____)
Than conversly she will say "last month of school, I can't see you or want to get involved in anything serious"...
I do little tests to actually gauge interest (ie didn't reply to a text she sent yesterday and she calls me 6 hours later asking why...lol)...
It just seems odd to me... she seems really conflicted.
Honestly, I don't care how the situation plays out... right now we are friends with benifits I guess (I dunno really...lol)... but I am confused on what she wants with me or where this is headed...
Conversely myself, not sure I want a relationship with her... she is amazing, hot, sexy and probably everything I want... but not what I need. She is also very impulsive and overall a horrible decision maker (life decision maker) and I just think she would just end up hurting me so I haven't fully committed that way to her because of my doubts towards her.... but she is a total freak in the sack so there is that...
It's weird and a unusual dynamic.
Just seems odd she would do these little mind game things as I mentioned above than say something like she doesn't want something serious or whatever.
I'm just going to continue to play it cool because I am obviosly playing this right, never expected this thing to last this long but digging it.... never really went full blown relationship, everytime I think we are there she seems to draw away... conversly everytime I think it's over and we wont talk, she either comes to my place to screw or invites me to her place to screw
Boy am I ****ing confused. Seems like you already got it all dude. And vice-versa.
I mean this girl I been seeing sort of off and on just does/says some things that scratch my head thinking she wants more than what we have...
She asked if I had thought of names for kids if I had them...
I picked up a ring she took off and was on the table, gave it to her, she gave it back to me and told me to put it on her...
Sometimes talks about "the future" and such... (ie- "we" should go and on a trip and do this____)
Than conversly she will say "last month of school, I can't see you or want to get involved in anything serious"...
I do little tests to actually gauge interest (ie didn't reply to a text she sent yesterday and she calls me 6 hours later asking why...lol)...
It just seems odd to me... she seems really conflicted.
Honestly, I don't care how the situation plays out... right now we are friends with benifits I guess (I dunno really...lol)... but I am confused on what she wants with me or where this is headed...
Conversely myself, not sure I want a relationship with her... she is amazing, hot, sexy and probably everything I want... but not what I need. She is also very impulsive and overall a horrible decision maker (life decision maker) and I just think she would just end up hurting me so I haven't fully committed that way to her because of my doubts towards her.... but she is a total freak in the sack so there is that...
It's weird and a unusual dynamic.
Just seems odd she would do these little mind game things as I mentioned above than say something like she doesn't want something serious or whatever.
I'm just going to continue to play it cool because I am obviosly playing this right, never expected this thing to last this long but digging it.... never really went full blown relationship, everytime I think we are there she seems to draw away... conversly everytime I think it's over and we wont talk, she either comes to my place to screw or invites me to her place to screw
Generally speaking 90% of them will and do. I know exactly what is going on in your situation, and the answer is: run.
The key is to learn all about their mind games and to fight back in order to get what you want, on your terms, without submitting to their ultimate goals.
Generally speaking 90% of them will and do. I know exactly what is going on in your situation, and the answer is: run.
The key is to learn all about their mind games and to fight back in order to get what you want, on your terms, without submitting to their ultimate goals.
why run? he knows what he is getting himself into, he said he isnt falling for her, and he is getting laid. No issue there
why run? he knows what he is getting himself into, he said he isnt falling for her, and he is getting laid. No issue there
Yes. The exception to 'run' being if you can manipulate them to get exactly what you want, without giving them anything they want via their subterfuge and passive aggressive behaviour.
If you can manage that, on your terms, then go for it.
Ran into a girl I went to school with a looong time ago.
Went on a few get togethers.
3rd get together (I called this one a date) went in for a kiss.
Haven't heard from her since
Even sent a text saying hey, and still no reply.
Time to move on
Just sucks because I saw a lot of value in her
Oh well
Ran into a girl I went to school with a looong time ago.
Went on a few get togethers.
3rd get together (I called this one a date) went in for a kiss.
Haven't heard from her since
Even sent a text saying hey, and still no reply.
Time to move on
Just sucks because I saw a lot of value in her
Oh well
In better news NJ should win today
Ask her for her hand in marriage, usually works for me.
Ran into a girl I went to school with a looong time ago.
Went on a few get togethers.
3rd get together (I called this one a date) went in for a kiss.
Haven't heard from her since
Even sent a text saying hey, and still no reply.
Time to move on
Just sucks because I saw a lot of value in her
Oh well
