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06-03-2012, 09:19 AM
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Did I get blown off?

Not sure if this goes in the Lady Advice thread.

Last night I mustered up some confidence and some cool and I asked this girl I work with if she wanted to grab a drink after work. Much to my surprise, she said yes and and asked for my number. I got off work about 45 minutes before she did so I went home to shower before coming back to work to pick her up.

When I get there she says that she's really sorry but she's just too tired to go out tonight but that we'll definitely go out another time. She said she's sorry that I came all the way back out and she gave me her number.

Now I think I got blown off and this girl probably wants nothing to do with me but everyone else doesn't at all think I was blown off. So now I ask you, almighty Internet, to settle the score. Did I get blown off and is this girl not worth my time or did she have an honest change of heart and it's nothing to get worked up about?


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06-03-2012, 09:22 AM
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Not sure if this goes in the Lady Advice thread.

Last night I mustered up some confidence and some cool and I asked this girl I work with if she wanted to grab a drink after work. Much to my chagrin, she said yes and and asked for my number. I got off work about 45 minutes before she did so I went home to shower before coming back to work to pick her up.

When I get there she says that she's really sorry but she's just too tired to go out tonight but that we'll definitely go out another time. She said she's sorry that I came all the way back out and she gave me her number.

Now I think I got blown off and this girl probably wants nothing to do with me but everyone else doesn't at all think I was blown off. So now I ask you, almighty Internet, to settle the score. Did I get blown off and is this girl not worth my time or did she have an honest change of heart and it's nothing to get worked up about?
Well if that's your mindset, why do you care?

Or do you not know what "chagrin" means?

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The ball is in her court now. I dont expect from you to make any moves.

It's very possible that she's speaking the truth but she should've told you before.

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06-03-2012, 09:29 AM
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Well if that's your mindset, why do you care?

Or do you not know what "chagrin" means?
Because she's hot and I would enjoy her company. I obviously don't care enough about rejection not to take a chance and ask her

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Not sure if this goes in the Lady Advice thread.

Last night I mustered up some confidence and some cool and I asked this girl I work with if she wanted to grab a drink after work. Much to my chagrin, she said yes and and asked for my number. I got off work about 45 minutes before she did so I went home to shower before coming back to work to pick her up.

When I get there she says that she's really sorry but she's just too tired to go out tonight but that we'll definitely go out another time. She said she's sorry that I came all the way back out and she gave me her number.

Now I think I got blown off and this girl probably wants nothing to do with me but everyone else doesn't at all think I was blown off. So now I ask you, almighty Internet, to settle the score. Did I get blown off and is this girl not worth my time or did she have an honest change of heart and it's nothing to get worked up about?
So you didn't want to go out with her? No wonder she cancelled.

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06-03-2012, 09:37 AM
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Edited for my stupidity. Since when does chagrin not mean "Surprised"?

Much to my SURPRISE she said yes

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06-03-2012, 09:53 AM
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Don't ask her out again, move on and find another.

A woman who is interested in you will make time and find ways to be with you, simple as that.

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The ball is in her court now. I dont expect from you to make any moves.

It's very possible that she's speaking the truth but she should've told you before.
I dunno .. considering the last move was her giving him her phone number, she might be thinking that the ball is in his court.

I'd give her a call this week and see about cashing in that raincheck she gave you last night. She wouldn't have given you her number if she didn't want you to call her. Just remember that some girls feel guilty when they blow someone off, which might explain why she gave you her number. Keep it in the back of your head that she may have blown you off, but don't just assume it.

She already knows you're a "nice enough guy" to not be a jerk about going all the way back to work just to get stonewalled, and not making a big deal about the generic gosh-I'm-real-tired line, so if you're too persistent then she'll know she's got you in the palm of her hand. If she's "too tired" or "too busy" or "too grumpy/sleepy/sneezy/bashful" when you ask her again, let it drop.


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Girl from work? Immediately a bad idea, if you ask me.

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Girl from work? Immediately a bad idea, if you ask me.
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Edited for my stupidity. Since when does chagrin not mean "Surprised"?

Much to my SURPRISE she said yes
I just wanted to point out that if you had read the non-fiction books that you might know what chagrin means.

So much for being a "snobby intellectual".

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Girl from work? Immediately a bad idea, if you ask me.
I don't think it's that bad. I don't plan on sleeping with her and then never calling her again. As long as I'm mature about it all there shouldn't be any problems....then again it is a girl I'm dealing with here so who knows.

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Wait, so she said she'd be happy to go out another time, but she's sorry she gave you her number?

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One thing that I can unequivocally say based on experience over the years is that if someone really likes someone they will make every conceivable effort to hang out with you, whether they be a romantic interest, friends, or family. The people that give lame excuses just don't care enough and aren't worth your time.

She's probably not interested and not worth the trouble. If you want to hang out with someone you will make the effort. She doesn't sound like she cares all that much (the "tired" excuse is lame as hell and used far too often) and is trying to let you off gently without hurting your feelings.

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Wait, so she said she'd be happy to go out another time, but she's sorry she gave you her number?
No she was sorry I came back to work to pick her up only for her to cancel. I guess she was too busy with her tables to let me know (we work at a restaurant).

I respect myself enough not to be strung along by this girl. I just want to be sure if she blew me off or if she truthfully was too tired to go and does actually want to go out again.

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No she was sorry I came back to work to pick her up only for her to cancel. I guess she was too busy with her tables to let me know (we work at a restaurant).

I respect myself enough not to be strung along by this girl. I just want to be sure if she blew me off or if she truthfully was too tired to go and does actually want to go out again.
You will never know the answer, so don't even try. The only thing you can find out is if she really does want to hang out another time. So ask her out again. That's all you can do. She blows you off again, **** it.

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i dont get why people blow off somebody. it doesnt hurt to go out with someone

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You will never know the answer, so don't even try. The only thing you can find out is if she really does want to hang out another time. So ask her out again. That's all you can do. She blows you off again, **** it.
Pretty much this. You can't count on her making moves, you can only count on yourself.

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