I am heading to Rochester NY and Toronto for a few days of vacation in each place over the next few weeks.
Assuming (and that is a big if) the wife lets me bring my equipment, I would be looking to get in a skate or two, like at an open hockey session one evening in each town.
Are there rinks any of you locals in those cities would recommend, and at what night/times?
I am an adult beginner, so an open hockey that doesn't have too many superstars would be preferable.
I was going to take a crack at you over the bolded part but instead I will try and be constructive.
Surely your wife has some things that she wants to do on your vacation that doesn't get your blood pumping. Give her what she wants: shopping, spa, sightseeing, whatever in exchange for you getting to bring your gear and go for a couple of skates.
Negotiate that **** with her instead of begging for it.